By Aarti Bansal
A couple of years ago I went to watch a documentary film called ‘Happy’ at the Sheffield Friends of the Earth film festival. The film examined what makes us happy as humans. One of the parts of the movie that stayed with me was where they examined the possible impact of communal living in Denmark on their high levels of national happiness. Children living in such housing said they felt they had an extended family of friends to play with and parents to look after them. I remember feeling very similarly growing up in family hospital accommodation with 8 flats in a building where the entire building became our home and the people in it our family.
Having recently and unexpectedly retuned to Sheffield from Australia, my family and I found ourselves without anywhere to live. Kind friends offered us their homes. We didn’t expect to take up these kind offers for more than a week or two, expecting to find somewhere to rent in school catchment for our boys. This proved much more difficult than we could have imagined and we ended up living with friends for 3 months. It was wonderful. It may not have been as materially comfortable as living in our own home, but our friendship has deepened and their open-hearted example has inspired us to notice how others may need help and support and to offer what we can.
Interestingly, current research shows that giving is receiving in terms of happiness. Yet we don’t generally see acceptance of generosity as an act of kindness. We feel obligated to people when accepting help, burdened, somehow ‘less than’. Perhaps these negative feelings prevent us from asking for help. As well as fear of rejection, fear of crossing a line of appropriateness… Yet asking for help and sharing gives us the opportunity to connect with our neighbours and build friendships, expand our sense of community and our sense of self. It is a kindness to others.
We are social creatures and thrive from being interdependent rather than independent, connected rather than isolated. So let’s ask for help! Or if that is not so easy, lets offer help before it is asked.
As well as being intricately interconnected on a personal and local level, we are also inteconnected on a global scale. Politically, economically and most importantly via earth, air and water. It’s an illusion that somehow our choices don’t influence the lives of others. We need to see ourselves as part of the community of humans and indeed life on planet earth.
We can do this at an individual level and make positive choices such as changing energy provider, using more public transport etc. But what about what we can do together? We can share the lawnmower between houses. We can share car journeys. We can help look after each other.
We can also do this through being part of the global climate movement which can make our voice heard at events like the UN Climate Conference in Paris in December. That is why I am actively supporting the #Timefortheclimate event in Sheffield on 28th November 2015. This event is part of the Global People’s Climate March taking place on 28th and 29th November across the world.
For me, most importantly, being ‘green’ through building community is not overwhelming, upsetting or paralyzing, it is motivating, uplifting and energising.